The truth about clarity & confidence
Updated: Aug 2
Whichever area you work within, you will find common recurring themes. Often, in a coaching session, it’s the need for clarity & confidence that consistently occurs.
The clarity to clearly map out a path to see where you can make a purposeful impact.
The confidence to up your game, go big, and know you can make a difference.
The thing is, most people are looking at clarity and confidence from the wrong angle.
Yes, it can be good to have clarity but, the truth is, it’s not essential. Think about it; we can drive for miles at night with only a few feet ahead of us lit by headlights. It doesn't stop us from getting to our destination. And we certainly don’t need to have clarity about every twist & turn in the road before we start.
Yes, it would be great to have confidence as we set out on a new journey, but it's not a requirement of setting out; it's a result of setting out.
Neither clarity nor confidence is essential to the thing we want to do. Often the perceived lack of one or the other serves only to hinder you from getting started.
The truth is that clarity is an illusion. We didn’t know 18 months ago we were going to be hit by a pandemic. Neither did we know in 2007/8 that a financial crisis was on its way. We never know what’s around the corner.
If you’re finding yourself stuck in that Gray Zone where you’re neither moving forward nor back because of a lack of clarity or confidence, take the pressure off by having some fun with it.
Set yourself some challenges for the next six months. Challenges that stretch and scare you but won’t be the end of the world if they don’t come off.
See how far you get with them. Then, in six months, look back and consider how just how much clarity and confidence you needed to get started when the pressure was off and you were having some fun with it.
I love the thought process from Rich Litvin that “a goal is a place to come from, not a place to get to”.
So who would you be if you succeeded in your challenges? Would you be more serious? Less serious perhaps? What would you do today if you thought of making money as fun?
Living into the mindset of that person now brings whatever is ahead to you a whole lot faster. Be that person now and use it as leverage to move forward.
What we can have clarity about is where we're starting from; who we are in the present moment.
What we can have confidence about is how we’re going to show up in the present moment.
Anything future-based is just an illusion, so have some fun. Take the pressure off and, before you know it you’ll be looking back with clarity and confidence because you took action in the moment.
Here’s a powerful exercise from Rich Litvin that you can take to turn your thinking around and move forward right now.
Make a list of all the times you lacked confidence before you began a new job, a new project, a new relationship, or a new business
Make a list of all the times you lacked clarity at the start of a new job, a new project, a new relationship, or a new business
Make a list of all the times you failed at something—but when you look back, you gained more confidence and clarity precisely because of each failure
The truth is, you don’t need clarity or confidence about the future. You only need it about the past so you can use it as leverage for moving forward. The future will take care of itself simply by taking action in the present.
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