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Choose Your Tribe Wisely.
 How Your Inner Circle Can Shape Your Future

Happy Friends

As social creatures, we are naturally inclined to want to spend time with others. But have you ever stopped to consider the impact that the people you surround yourself with, have on your decisions and ultimately, your life? The truth is, the people you choose to spend time with have a far greater impact  on  your mindset and actions than we may realise. 

Renowned social scientist Brené Brown has spoken at length about the importance of choosing your friends wisely. In her book "Daring Greatly," she writes, "We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering." However, she also notes that "not all relationships are created equal." In other words, the people you surround yourself with should uplift and support you, rather than drain or hold you back.

Simon Sinek, best-selling author and motivational speaker, echoes this sentiment. He believes that the people you spend time with can shape your thoughts and beliefs, ultimately influencing your decision-making. He says, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. If you hang around with four broke people, you'll be the fifth. If you hang around with four successful people, you'll be the fifth."

Stephen Bartlett, social media entrepreneur and author of "Happy Sexy Millionaire," also recognises the power of your tribe. In an interview with The Guardian, he said, "Your peer group are your real family. They are the ones who will help you, support you, and get you through tough times." He adds that surrounding yourself with positive, driven individuals can help you achieve success and happiness.

So, what does all of this mean for your life? It means that the people you choose to spend time with are not just casual acquaintances - they can shape your future. If you want to live a life of positivity, success, and fulfillment, it's important to surround yourself with like-minded individuals who share your values and goals.


Here are my key action points to begin to help you let go of toxic relationships and build a positive inner circle:

  1. Identify toxic relationships: Take a look at the people in your life and evaluate how they make you feel. Are they constantly negative, critical, or unsupportive? Do they bring out the worst in you or hold you back from your goals?

  2. Set boundaries: Once you've identified toxic relationships, it's important to set boundaries to protect your well-being. This may mean limiting your time with certain individuals, or cutting ties altogether if necessary.

  3. Seek out positive influences: Surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you. Seek out mentors, join clubs or groups related to your interests, and make an effort to connect with positive, supportive individuals.

  4. Practice self-care: Letting go of toxic relationships can be challenging, so it's important to practice self-care and prioritise your mental and emotional health. This may include therapy, meditation, exercise, or spending time in nature. Take a read of Rewild Your Mind as somewhere to begin.


Remember, the people you choose to spend time with can greatly impact your mindset and actions. As Simon Sinek said, "if you want to be successful, surround yourself with people who are already successful." By letting go of toxic relationships and cultivating a positive inner circle, you can create a more fulfilling and successful life.

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